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By Tatiana Boncompagni
You know those celebrities who seem to get their pre-baby bodies back within weeks (if not days) of giving birth? Yeah, that wasn’t me.
After having each of my three kids it was a struggle to fit back into my pre-partum jeans. The extra pounds would fall off quickly, at first, but then the weight loss would slow and then stop altogether. No matter how much exercise I did or how careful I was with my diet, I couldn’t seem to lose that last bit of flesh around my midsection and upper arms. And then I would just get pregnant again.
After baby number three, I sort of gave up. I stopped weighing myself, threw out most of my old size 4s and numbed the pain of my non-elastic waistbands with plenty of Sauvignon Blanc. (My joke was that with every kid, I added a glass.) I still exercised—a lot, actually, and mostly for stress relief—but you couldn’t really tell by looking at me. I had a mombod. There, I said it.
Not feeling good in my clothes was one thing, but what I hated most about my shape was that I was making such a big effort to be healthy (I even ran a marathon), and that wasn’t reflected in my outward appearance at all. I mean, at all.
And then I met Heather Marr, aka The Model Trainer. For those of you for whom that term is not familiar (98 percent of you), model trainers specialize in training models, as in the goddesses you see walking the Victoria’s Secret runway and staring out at you from the decks of magnificent yachts in magazine advertisements. I, a mere mortal, only got to train with her because I was writing a story about her techniques for a women’s magazine where I was working as the food editor.
Within a few weeks of following Heather’s diet and fitness program (she believes you have to make changes in both to see results), my waist, which I hadn’t seen since giving birth to baby number 2, was back, and my arms, back and legs were more toned. Finally: progress.
How did Heather do it? First of all, she completely overhauled my diet. We increased the amount of lean protein I was eating so my energy and hunger levels stayed more even throughout the day, and we took out all the so-called health food—actually just high-sugar junk (granola bars and smoothies, I’m looking at you) I was eating. She also taught me how to stop thinking of food as a source of comfort or as a reward. No more face-planting myself in a bowl of ice cream and hot fudge after tucking in the 5 year-old for the 40th time that night.
With my workouts, Heather had me doing less, not more. Before I would spend hours in the gym running or taking cardio classes. Now I worked out smarter, focusing on moves that would help shift my shape, build muscle and increase my resting metabolism (muscle burns more calories than fat).
Every day Heather would send me a workout to follow that included some body-weight exercises like “model” burpees (Heather has a specific way of doing them to really tone the abs and pull in the waist) and “the deathcrawl” or some exercises with dumbbells, like squats and lunges. As I grew stronger, she encouraged me to use heavier and heavier weights, which I’d been afraid to do in the past out of fear of getting bulky. The opposite happened. The heavier the weights I lifted, the leaner I became.
I actually think I have a better body now than I did in my twenties before having kids. I’m stronger too—in the ways you can see and the ways you can’t (this time I mean this in a good way). I may not look as perfect as those social media fitness stars—I have loose skin around my midsection that no amount of model burpees is going to get rid of—but that doesn’t stop me from celebrating and tracking my progress on Instagram .
The thing is, if I didn’t have that wonky belly button, I wouldn’t have my kids. And my kids are what make everything—especially getting in the best shape of my life—worth it. But so am I—worth it, I mean. I know what it’s like to feel not so great about your body, frustrated with yo-yoing weight and overwhelmed by all the conflicting information out there.
Heather took the guesswork out of my health and fitness plan and helped me reclaim my confidence. And now I want to help other women feel as great about their bodies as I do about mine. Especially moms. Because when you’re a mom you know that what really matters in life isn’t measured in dress sizes or numbers on a scale. It’s about feeling empowered and happy, loving those you hold most dear—and yes, yourself, too.
Please share your postpartum fitness successes, failures and frustrations or indifference with us here.
All photos courtesy of Tatiana Boncompagni
Tatiana Boncompagni is an editor and writer based in Manhattan. Before co founding Tone and Style, she was the food editor at Self magazine. Her writing has appeared in dozens of publications, including The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Financial Times, Marie Claire, Vogue, InStyle and Town & Country and she has appeared on television networks such as CBS, Bloomberg, and the BBC. Tatiana created The Model Trainer Method: Real Bodies. Super Results, a diet and fitness ebook guide, with Heather because she believes that all women deserve to feel happy, strong and beautiful, and that women’s fitness is — at its very core — about female empowerment. She is the mother of three children.
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By Kelly Flannigan Bos
It’s happening again. I thought this summer would be different. The calendar looked wide open but it’s filled up fast. Summer feels busy, chaotic; like it’s slipping through my fingers. This is not what I want for my family or for me.
The very idea of summer comes with hopes for a slower pace and a time to unwind. While we picture summer as floating lazily down the river, it more often resembles a tense ride over a water fall. The momentum of the vacation days, overnight camps, family visits, barbecues with friends quickly take over, and, before we know it, school has started again.
Time flies when we make summer too busy. And that busyness is brought on by good intentions, fear of missing out, and pressure to keep up with the Jones’. Before we know it, our desire to create perfect summer memories for our children ends up being the perfectly over-scheduled summer. We fear our kids will suffer if they’re not keeping up with their peers, but if the pace of summer is a priority, perhaps less is more.
We need to slow down. And we need to do it now, before it’s too late.
1. Keep it simple
Take a deep breath and think about your own summer memories. I’m guessing the best ones were rarely born out of the big plans, but rather experienced in the unhurried moments of smelling lilac bushes, hanging out in the neighborhood with friends, lying on freshly cut grass, and chasing the ice cream truck. Simple.
Knowing this should free us from the pressure of constantly manufacturing happiness for our children. Parenting Expert and author Amy McCready of the Me, Me, Me Epidemic states that “our kids need to learn that only they are responsible for their own happiness, and that it’s okay if things aren’t perfect all the time. In fact, when kids always get a path steamrolled to happiness by a caring parent, they never learn to handle their own setbacks and take charge of their own lives.”
So let go of the perfect summer and experience the now, with all your senses, together.
2. Find balance between routine and spontaneity
Summer is a wonderful opportunity to let loose in a way we can’t during the school months. But throwing the entire schedule out can be stressful. It’s important to figure out some routine while maintaining a degree of spontaneity. Andy Smithson of Tru Parenting suggests discussing the plan for the day and keeping some routine (like bedtimes) while also making room for the unplanned to create the perfect combination.
My husband loves a free day, where he acts on ideas as they occur, and these days can be fun. But a nice balance for a planner like me would be to have some discussion about the priorities we each have for the day. For the kids it can be helpful to know what to expect during the summer holidays. It additionally helps the more anxious child who may worry about what’s coming next, freeing them up to enjoy it.
3. Schedule empty space for growth
I know how important down time is for me and it’s a good thing for my kids, too. My 7- year-old daughter loves her day camp experiences but also loves puttering around her room, doing art, make believe play, and rigging imaginary worlds with ropes, hangers, and toys across the room. While she putters, I can see she needs this time for her development. Studies support this and show that unstructured play time is a proven way to develop leadership skills, resiliency, self-control, creativity, and the list goes on. Play is a place to work these skills out.
In striving for a simple, balanced and reflective summer we will find ourselves less stressed and able to be there for it. So lets let go of the summer “shoulds” and actually be present for what remains of summer itself, mindfully taking in the smells, sights and sounds.
Stop and smell the summer.
Has summer gotten the best of you?
Kelly Bos is a psychotherapist living, practicing and writing abroad in the Caribbean. A two year plan has quickly become seven. She is married to a thoroughly entrepreneurial guy and has a school aged daughter and a toddler son all of which love to climb everything and anything while she herself has a preference for lower ground. Find her at www.kellybos.com and www.facebook.com/kellyflanniganbostherapy where she writes about relationships, parenting and self-care and on Twitter @kellyflanniganb.
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By Susan Verde
When you become a mother you give up bits of yourself. They get lost in a whirlwind of diapers, playdates, feedings, work, lack of sleep, tears, boo-boos and trying to maintain a relationship with your partner. Life can feel like a swirling tornado and self care tends to go out the window.
The things we end up doing for ourselves are often shrouded by guilt or time constraints, making the experience a “loaded” one. For me, working out, yoga and meditation were things I had always done before kids, and assumed (naively) I would be able to do with regularity afterwards. But when my three children were little, it became impossible to imagine tearing myself away to care for my own being. Each feeble attempt at getting out the door to a class was thwarted by spit up, poop, or tears that rocked the depth of my soul. Otherwise plain old exhaustion stopped me. What I learned along the way, was this was precisely the time when I needed my yoga practice the most.
As much as it feels as if there is no physical or mental space or strength available for oneself, it’s possible to find brief moments to clear the mind, reset the body, and give yourself the attention and care you need, to keep doing what you do for your children.
The next time you’re at the height of crazy kid chaos, take a deep breath and try these 5 quick and effective yoga and mindfulness practices. They can be done together or individually when you need to remember yourself and show your kids it’s okay to love yourself, too.
1. Mindful breathing:
Often when we are stressed or overwhelmed, we forget to breathe. Taking 5 minutes to practice a bit of mindful meditation helps to reconnect with your body, mind and breath without judgement. As mothers, we are often hard on ourselves, so this is a beautiful way to let those criticisms go and just be with whatever you are experiencing.
Chances are you are on your hands and knees a great deal if your child is very young, or even as they get older, bending and picking things up or getting down to their level to engage face to face. Whether you find yourself in this position accidentally or make a point to get there, it’s the perfect opportunity to do a bit of cat/cow stretching and breathing.
These 2 poses have many benefits, especially as many aspects of caring for children can crunch and round the shoulders and back. Cat and cow provide a gentle stretch of the spine, hips and neck, and stimulate the organs in your belly. They improve your posture and clear your mind as you coordinate the movements with your breath. A few good rounds of Cat/Cow can hit you right where you need it!
3. Cobra pose:
While you are down there, cobra pose is another wonderful way to counteract all of the rounding moms do while carrying kids, diaper bags, groceries, and working at the computer. This pose is a gentle backbend that strengthens shoulders, and belly as well as helping calm anxiety and stress. It opens the heart and lifts the mood.
4. Forward Fold:
This pose can bring a lovely sense of calm and relief from stress and anxiety, in addition to counteracting compression. It’s also a great stretch for the legs and hamstrings, and because it’s an inversion (head lower than heart) it brings a new flow of oxygen and blood to the cells and brain.
This pose can be a mini vacation for an overwhelmed, overtired, overworked mother. Although it’s not a full blown nap, it’s a chance to reset your body and feel relief from stress and worry, a chance to connect to your breath, and to let the work of a busy mom melt away, if only for a few moments. Savasana is a place to let go of negative self-talk and the never-ending to-do list and find peace.
For step-by-step instructions for each pose, check out this slideshow.
-Find a comfortable seat and relax your hands in your lap with eyes closed
-Notice your breath. Is it slow? Fast? Shallow? Whatever it is, just notice.
-Bring your attention to each part of your body, beginning with your head, ending at your toes, and pausing at each spot, noticing any physical sensation. Inhale deeply, acknowledging what you feel, and with each exhale let go.
-As you scan your body, notice any emotions that arise, and the places you might be storing these emotions, and again give them some breath on the inhale and let them go on the exhale.
-When you feel you are ready, focus your attention only on your breath. Notice the inhale and exhale. Perhaps counting each action as 1, then 2 and so on until you feel ready to slowly re- enter your world of mothering.
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-Come onto all fours with your palms flat and pressing into the ground, and in line with your shoulders.
-Tuck the toes under and arch your back, looking up at the sky as you inhale deeply, pushing against the floor with your palms.
-Untuck the toes and round your back looking at your belly as you exhale.
-Continue for a few rounds.
-This is particularly fun to do with your little ones if you are already playing together, as you can both do the moves and moo and meow for some giggles while you get what you need.
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-Begin with your belly on the floor, legs straight behind you and the tops of your feet pressing into the ground.
-Place your hands under your shoulders, and spread your fingers, keeping your elbows against your sides.
-While reaching and engaging your legs as they remain on the floor, begin to straighten your arms and lift your chest as you inhale. Keep a bend in the elbows if it begins to feel like too much of an arch pressing your tailbone down.
-Exhale and inhale as you gently hold this pose for a few rounds of breath.
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-Stand tall in mountain pose with feet hip distance apart
-Hinging from the hips. fold forward slowly over your legs
-If it comes easily, place your hands or fingertips on the floor, otherwise bend your elbows and hold each in the opposite hand letting the crown of your head hang down towards the floor.
-Engage your thigh muscles by drawing them upward
-Inhale and exhale deeply and slowly as you lengthen your torso in your fold
If there is tightness in your hamstrings or pain in the lower back, bend your knees slightly or put your hands up on blocks if available.
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-Lie down on your back with your legs and arms a comfortable distance from your torso.
-Let everything soften. Imagine all the parts of your body sinking into the earth. Relax your mouth, eyebrows, forehead.
-Close your eyes and let them sink into the back of your head.
-This is a good time to focus on your breath, the rise and fall of the belly, the slow inhale and exhale.
-Scan your body, giving each part breath, acceptance and compassion as you allow yourself total relaxation.
-Stay in this pose for at least 10 minutes. Be sure to come out of savasana slowly, rolling to one side and gently re-entering your busy day.
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A little yoga can make a BIG difference in the life of a busy mother and bring back some of that self-care that we deserve and need. A love of ourselves is what helps us show love to others, and gets us through the times when we feel overwhelmed. Hang in there momma’s! You are doing a great job!
Illustrations by award-winning author and illustrator Peter H. Reynolds
In addition to her own personal yoga practice, Susan Verde RYT, RYCT(susanverde.com) is certified to teach yoga and mindfulness to children and has been doing so for the last six years. Susan lives in East Hampton, New York with her twin boys Joshua and Gabriel and her daughter Sophia where she writes children’s books and teaches classes. Her children, her practice and the ocean at her doorstep keep her connected and inspired. She is the author of the picture books The Museum, You and Me, I Am Yoga and the forthcoming The Water Princess with illustrations by Peter H Reynolds (due for release in September of 2016)
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With the back-to-school season closing in, parents are franticly running from store to store to buy supplies, clothing and other essentials so their kids are ready for class in a few weeks. As if finding the time to shop wasn’t a big enough battle, mom and dad often also face growing demands for expensive name brands and spend hours arguing with kids over what to buy.
With busy schedules and never-ending to-do lists, it’s often easier to give in to these over-the-top requests rather than squabble. Before you let this situation cause any further frustration, consider how to turn the back-to-school shopping season on its head and teach your kids valuable budgeting and saving skills.
Here are five money lessons your kids can learn during the back-to-school frenzy.
Lesson 1: Understanding Needs vs. Wants.
What better time to address the concepts of “needs” and “wants” than during this back-to-school season. Sit down with your son or daughter to review the school shopping list and separate supplies into these two categories, explaining the difference. A “need” includes a necessity such as a new binder to replace a broken one while a “want” may include name-brand clothing or something that your child can do without. Take inventory of what you already have at home and establish a budget for any missing items. If your kid protests against using last year’s backpack or old supplies, point out the extra cushion in the budget that may allow for something new on his or her want list.
Lesson 2: How to Set a Savings Goal.
There’s always going to be something your child asks for that’s out of budget and this is a great time to teach him or her how to save up for a purchase. Start by figuring out how much the item costs, how much needs to be saved and offer to match the amount your kid puts away from allowance, gifts or chores. Use this saving calculator from Mint Kids to establish a savings plan and create a chart where your child can track progress toward that purchase goal. If he or she is old enough, encourage babysitting, dog-walking or lawn care tasks to boost savings faster. Even setting up a lemonade stand is a fun way for your little one to get in on the lesson, too!
Lesson 3: Used Is Better Than New.
You don’t have to say no to every lavish request whether it’s a new pair of designer jeans or the latest gadget. However, it’s important to show your son or daughter how to find these items for less. Even though it won’t be easy to convince him or her that used is as good as new, head over to a local thrift store or browse online consigners to demonstrate the value of shopping second hand. Check out thredup.com or Tradesy for gently-used name-brand clothing at up to 90% off; Best Buy, Apple and TigerDirect for refurbished smartphones, tablets and laptops for up to 40% off; Swap Me Sports for like-new sports gear at half the cost; and, eBay for big bargains on other school supply goods including backpacks. Point out how much more room is left in the budget for all the needs and wants when buying used.
Lesson 4: Never Pay Full Price.
Even though it’s easier to shop alone, bringing your child along is a great way to put various savings tips into action. Explain why you never pay full price and how to do so by browsing sale racks and the clearance section as well as comparing prices among different brands and products. Turn the shopping trip into a mini scavenger hunt in which your child must find specific items from the school shopping list for less than the list price. He or she will enjoy using your phone to compare prices with barcode scanning apps like ShopSavvy and finding in-store coupons with the Target Cartwheel and Coupon Sherpa apps. After checking out, review the total amount saved so your son or daughter can share in the excitement and understand the importance of bargain shopping.
Lesson 5: Generics Are As Good As Name Brands.
When shopping for basics, your kid will instantly reach for familiar brands like Elmer’s glue or FiveStar notebooks. After all, advertisers spend millions of dollars to target children with brand messaging and it works. Spend the time to point out the big cost and minimal quality difference between store-brand and name-brand options. With the extra money saved by opting for the generic version, allow your child to grab an item off his or her want list to reinforce the benefit of this saving strategy.
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By Caroline Knorr, Common Sense Media
If you and your kids went a little overboard on screen-time this summer, you’re in good company. According to a Harris Interactive poll, about half of all parents say their kids watch more TV, play more video games, surf the Web more, and watch more movies during the summer months.
With back-to-school around the corner, it’s time to re-establish some limits on media. These strategies can help you get a jump on things:
Have a last blast. With the Labor Day weekend coming up, why not plan a special media-centered event that the whole family will enjoy — something you won’t have time for during the normal school year. A movie in the park, an all-day video game session, a binge-watching marathon of streaming shows are all fun ways to say, “so long, summer.”
Prepare your kids. Talk about the routine changes that come along with the school year. Discuss the concept of “balance” — a daily mix of exercise, reading, social and family time, school work, and entertainment. A week before school starts, get serious about bedtime, and turn off the TV, games, and electronic devices at least an hour before hitting the sack. The stimulation of media makes it hard for kids to settle down.
Create a school-year media plan. Take out a calendar, and work with your kids to create a weekly schedule that includes homework, chores, and activities — plus TV, games, movies, etc. Kids don’t always understand the concept of “Thursday,” but if they see their activities written down, they know what to expect and when to expect it.
Raid the library. Go for the books, but also find out whether your local branch offers programs for kids — like puppet shows, reading hours, or other activities. It’s like a little baby step to school.
Remember you’re their role model. Sneak your iPhone under the table, and your kids will catch you. Model the healthy media habits you’d like your kids to follow.
How do you get back into school mode when it comes to screen time?
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As Common Sense Media’s parenting editor, Caroline helps parents make sense of what’s going on in their kids’ media lives. From games to cell phones to movies and more, if you’re wondering “what’s the right age for…?” Caroline can help you make the decision that works best for your family. She has more than 20 years of editorial and creative marketing writing experience and has held senior-level positions at Walmart.com, Walmart stores, Cnet, and Bay Area Parent magazine. She specializes in translating complex information into bite-sized chunks to help families make informed choices about what their kids watch, play, read, and do. And she’s the proud mom of a teenage son
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It’s painful to even write about what one woman has been through in her journey to become a mom. Because it seems for some of us, that first moment you meet your baby, comes after so much heartache, it’s almost too much. Almost. Mom Jenna somehow, some way managed to push through the pain, and get here. To this.
As Jenna’s friend Bryn at “The Birth Hour,” a birth story podcast, told BabyCenter via email, “Gavin was born in March 2016 via planned C section, due to [his] breech position, and [Jenna] wanted to see him being born, so [she] requested a clear drape.”
This photograph captures the emotional moment when mom and baby reached out, and touched hands through the curtain.
At one point, this moment may have seemed impossible. Because as Bryn told BabyCenter, “Jenna’s son Greyson was stillborn at 34 weeks gestation in September 2014. At the time, she had no idea why her son had died. But later, Jenna would learn she had an MTHFR mutation which caused her blood to clot during pregnancy, and likely lead to the stillbirth. Bryn blogged about what she and Jenna playfully called the “Mother F*cker” gene, and you can read more about that here.
But now that she knew what went wrong, Jenna was ready to try again for her rainbow baby. As Bryn writes on her blog, “[Jenna] ended up needing Lovenox (a blood thinner) and started giving herself a daily shot in her abdomen every day around 8 weeks, and continued until several weeks after her baby was born. She saved all of the syringes and took this amazing picture with her rainbow baby when he was a newborn.”
Scroll through these photos to learn more about Jenna’s journey to baby.
This is Bryn and Jenna at her blessingway, which as Bryn told me, is like a baby shower, except for “many moms that suffer loss [they] prefer not to have a baby shower with subsequent babies until after baby arrives safely.” You can read more about how to host a blessingway to honor a mother on the birth hour blog.
One of the traditions at a blessingway is that each guest brings one flower, and you put them together to make a crown for mama.
Bryn says, “For anyone interested in the clear drape option, they also had a solid drape, partly in case she changed her mind, but also to pull up after [the baby] was born so [she doesn’t have to watch] the part where [she is] getting sewn back up.”
After Gavin’s birth, doctors performed a brief check, and he was brought back to Jenna so they could enjoy skin-to-skin time.
Jenna took to Instagram to share her heartfelt thoughts about the birth of her son, Gavin, writing, “Two weeks ago @ 8:26 am I met my littlest love of my life! As nerve-wracking as the c-section was and not knowing what to expect of his health once he was out, we were elated to hear those first loud cries and then to see his beautiful body through the clear drape.”
She adds, “I will never forget the moment he reached out for my hand on the other side of that drape as long as I live! Even though it wasn’t the magical birth I’d envisioned for my rainbow baby, we made the best out of the safest way for Gavin to arrive earthside. I would do ANYTHING for my baby, and that includes being cut open so that he was born safely!”
Of course, she did so much more than that. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Jenna, which will no doubt inspire women who haven’t made it through the woods, just yet.
All photos courtesy of thebirthhour.com.
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